5 Training Myths That Are Actually Making Things Worse

Dog training advice is everywhere—but not all of it is helpful. Some of the most common beliefs we hear from dog owners sound logical… but actually create confusion, frustration, or even damage the relationship between you and your pup.

Let’s bust 5 of the biggest myths together—backed by real behavior science and years of professional experience.

Example Myths Covered:

• “My dog is just being stubborn.”

• “You have to show them who’s boss.”

• “He knows what he did wrong.”

• “Treats are bribery.”

• “Puppies grow out of it.”

1. “My dog is just being stubborn.”

This one’s a classic. But here's the truth: dogs aren’t stubborn—they're either confused, unmotivated, overstimulated, or undertrained. When a dog doesn’t respond, it’s often because they haven’t fully learned what’s expected, the environment is too distracting, or the reward isn’t meaningful enough. Dogs don’t “choose” to be difficult for fun—they’re always communicating something.

Solution: Break down commands into simpler steps, reduce distractions, and use consistent, positive reinforcement.

2. “You have to show them who’s boss.”

The old-school “alpha” mindset is one of the most damaging myths still around. Dogs don’t need to be dominated—they need calm, clear, trustworthy leadership. Using force, intimidation, or dominance may suppress behavior in the short term, but it often creates fear, anxiety, or even aggression in the long run.

Solution: Be a confident leader, not a boss. Guide with structure, not fear.

3. “He knows what he did wrong.”

We've all seen the “guilty look”—but it’s not what you think. That look isn’t guilt—it’s appeasement behavior, a dog’s way of responding to your tone or body language. Dogs live in the moment. If you scold them after the fact, they’re not connecting it to the behavior—they’re just reacting to your energy.

Solution: Focus on timing. Reward what you like as it happens, and redirect immediately when needed.

4. “Treats are bribery.”

Treats aren’t bribes—they’re currency for learning. Would you work a job without a paycheck? Neither would your dog. In training, treats are used to reinforce desired behaviors. Once your dog understands the behavior, you can gradually reduce treats and replace them with praise, toys, or life rewards (like going outside).

Solution: Use treats strategically, not endlessly. They’re a teaching tool, not a forever crutch.

5. “Puppies grow out of it.”

They might, but they also might grow into worse habits. Puppy behavior left unchecked often turns into adult behavior problems. Nipping, jumping, pulling, chewing—these things don’t disappear on their own. They need early redirection, structure, and clear expectations to set the foundation for a balanced adult dog.

Solution: Start early. The sooner you set structure, the easier life becomes—for both of you.

Final Thoughts

Dog training is less about "fixing" bad behavior and more about understanding the why behind it. Ditching outdated myths helps you build a stronger, more trusting bond with your dog—and leads to behavior that sticks for life.